Treat Them Well

My Challenge Today:

Treat them well …

By Bernadette Kathryn, LMT, IHLC

When you love someone,

you treat them well.

~ Tippi Hedren

When you love someone, you treat them well … that is usually the case, not always. I have learned in the past, sometimes we will treat those we love the worst … we don’t always have a conscious knowledge of what we are doing to sabotage our relationships. It actually seems that we are often unaware of how our unconscious behavior is hurting those that we love. We are human and we can get caught up in our own nonsense that we don’t stop to think about how our ‘tone’ of voice affects someone close to us. I am guilty of this and when I really stop to think about it, I have a tendency to talk to myself with that same critical tone, ewww.

I don’t know about you, but I can get very focused on something that I am working on and not realize that I have a certain intensity to my voice which has been known to be cutting at times. I know when I have a deadline or time crunch — this is very true. I am not the type to mince words, I like to get the job done and move on to the next thing. I really don’t like to be late, so the intensity can build when I see my time slipping away.

I was introduced to AFFIRMATIONS long ago through Louise Hay’s book – Heal Your Body. Affirmations are like the program that our computer (brain) is running at any given time. The idea that we are what we think is fueled by our self-talk for good or bad. We do have a choice to change the program that is running in the background of our computer (brain). We can begin to recognize our unconscious monologue and get up close and personal with our inner critic through our Mindfulness Meditation practice and we can begin the process of neutralizing the inner critic with our Daily Gratitude Practice. 

When we are able to create that subtle shift in our computer programming, we will experience the benefits of healthier self-talk and begin to give ourselves the compassion we would ultimately give to our loved ones.