Your Challenge Today:
The best and most beautiful things …
By Bernadette Kathryn, LMT, IHLC
The best and most beautiful things in the world
cannot be seen or even touched –
they must be felt with the heart.
~ Helen Keller
Connecting to others is a beautiful thing, deep personal connections with family and friends is a real blessing in life. Sharing stories, life experiences, travel, laughter, happiness and sadness is the thread that binds our lives to our friends and community. As we live, breathe and grow through our lives and share the beauty of communication and connection, we develop loving bonds of friendship. Where would we be without our family and friends? Lovers may come and go, but true friends are always there for you, no matter what. Friends love you when you are up and down, they know you and love you just the same, warts and all.
Friendship is like any other relationship—and no relationship is perfect. Disagreements and the occasional squabble are bound to happen with all relationships. The key to maintaining strong bonds is to realize that neither person is perfect.
The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz ~ offer us principles to practice in order to create love and happiness in our lives and relationships.
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Value your friend’s (or spouse’s) views even if you don’t agree with them. Forgive their mistakes and always make the effort to patch things up when you both argue. True friends understand that no matter what happens, the bond of friendship is the most important thing.
What are the most beautiful things in your world?
What is it that makes your heart sing?
How do you celebrate your relationships?
The daily, sometimes multiple times a day, focus on gratitude really helps. Expressing my love and appreication is one of the many ways I celebrate my relationships. Learning to let others help more is another way.
1. working on this one 24/7
2. getting better but, i have a long way to go. when someone says a comment that i might take as-what did i do to deserve that?-i now try to ask myself….what must have happened to them today to cause such a hurt mood? forgive and forget.
3. ass. out of U. and me don’t assume anything! it only gets me into trouble!
4. yes! be my best, feel my best. no regrets and give myself a big hug!
Nice Debbie — good reminders for us all 🙂